September 2007

D. and I drafted our Health Care Power of Attorney documents today. Our engagement isn’t going to be frightfully long, but we’ve been living together for a while and believe we should cover our butts in case of an emergency. You never know, we could get in a dreadful car accident or catch the bird flu while traveling across the country, and we would like to have each other at the hospital making decisions. Honestly, I think a Health Care Power of Attorney is a good thing to have in general (whether you’re married or not), so there isn’t any confusion or power struggle when you’re laid up in the hospital.

Also, in many states, a Health Care Power of Attorney is one of the acceptable documents for establishing domestic partner status.

There are lots of templates available on the internet, and you don’t *need* an attorney to draft one. (By all means, consult an attorney if you have any questions, but an attorney is not required.)


What do you do when your fiance is offered and accepts a new job that relocates you both to the West coast?

Well, one: Your brain says: OMG!OMG!OMG!OMG!OMG! over and over until it makes your stomach queasy. At that point, you get nauseous, and you feel like you are going to a) throw up or b) take a spontaneous dump on the floor. *plop* (or both.)

Two: Learn how to breathe again and be mindful of the state of your bowels.

Three: Alternate between being excited and psychotically anxious.

Yes, we have paid for the deposit for our location, found our baker and photographer, sorted most of the details with the caterer, and now we’re going to move. We can’t have the wedding before we move. The new employer wants us out there in less than a month. (Plus, I’d lose my mind for sure trying to rush a wedding and preparing to move across the country.)

So, as of right now, we’re still going to have our wedding in the DC area. It’s closer for our friends and relatives. We’ll have to plan everything from afar and fly from California to attend our own wedding, but I think we can pull it off.

What would you do?