April 2008

In preparation for the wedding, D. and I were going to whiten our teeth. We don’t smoke or have really yellow teeth, but we both drink tea, and D. drinks coffee. I want us to look as good as we can for our pictures. Originally, we were going to pick up GoSMILE B1 tooth whitening kits from Sephora. I’ve used samples of the B1 product and liked the results. It didn’t irritate my gums and trigger sensitivity in my teeth. However, in the mall, we got distracted by a Spa White teeth whitening kiosk. It seemed similar to the Zoom! whitening process, but it was only $150 (plus tax). D. and I got excited and gave it a shot. During my procedure, my gums felt like they were burning and my teeth were tingling. After the 15 minutes, my teeth were whiter, but they were also very sensitive. Even now, my gums are very tender. D. had a much better experience. Our teeth are definitely whiter, but I am not going to do it again. State dentistry officials across the country are weighing in and shutting down some of these kiosks. In the future, I’m sticking to the whitening kits.


Two weeks ago, our rings from West Coast Jewelry arrived.

D.\'s ring

D.’s ring looked great. The ring has a nice bit of heft, a much better feel than titanium. There aren’t any scratches on it (there’s lint on the ring in the picture).

However, when I opened the box containing my ring, I was surprised and disappointed.

Copper ring

That ring doesn’t look right.

Copper ring

Yup, that’s definitely not the ring I ordered. I emailed West Coast Jewelry, and they quickly responded with an apology and a promise to ship out the correct ring right away.

Less than a week later, I received the correct ring, a padded envelope and a postage paid label to return the copper ring.

The ring looked pretty promising.

Unfortunately, it just didn’t feel like a wedding band to me. It was too wide and looked too much like hematite. 😦 However, some of the benefits of purchasing a ring online is that it wasn’t very expensive and this particular vendor has a decent return policy. I was a little sad though because I wanted to get the rings checked off my list.

On Saturday, I went to my local jeweler to have D.’s grandmother’s engagement ring and ornate wedding band appraised. You see, I don’t want to wear the fancy wedding band all the time. It’s beautiful, but it’s too much bling for me. Plus, I’m really hard on jewelry. That’s why I’ve been looking for a durable band. The jeweler pointed out some repairs that it needed and suggested I have the repairs done before the appraisal. One of the small diamonds in the band was shattered and another diamond was chipped. Also, the tiny prongs holding in the stones needed retipping. I wasn’t expecting this extra expense, but long term, it is definitely a good idea. I’ll be getting the rings back on Friday, so I’ll take pictures of them then.

While I was at the jeweler, I tried on 2.0 and 2.5mm wedding bands. I also compared the white gold, palladium, and platinum bands. To be honest, they all look the same. White gold is too soft for me, and platinum is too expensive, so I’ve ordered a palladium band from e-Weddingbands.com. Palladium is in the platinum group, so it’s close enough, and who’s gonna know, right?

A few weeks ago, D. and I started looking for wedding bands. With the price of precious metals going through the roof, we decided to go with tungsten carbide. We looked at titanium bands, but they are really lightweight, almost like plastic, and they scratch more easily. Plus, tungsten carbide bands are really durable. C’mon, it’s used in armor-piercing ammunition and for the rotating ball in ballpoint pens. What more could you want?

I read good things about the Trent West TrewTungsten line, and our local jewelry store is an authorized retailer. When we went to the jewelry store, D. really liked the faceted bands. Come to find out the faceted bands he really liked were not TrewTungsten bands. They were actually manufactured by a company overseas. Unfortunately, the jewelry store didn’t have any of the imported bands in stock in my size, and they could not order individual rings.

We searched around on the internet and ended up ordering these two rings from West Coast Jewelry through Amazon.com.

This 7mm band with beveled edges for D.

…and this simple 4mm band for me.

If I like his band more than the simple band, I can return it. The only reason I didn’t order a matching band in my size was because it didn’t come in a smaller millimeter. I was afraid the 7mm would look to bulky on me. The rings should be here around April 14th – April 17th, so I’ll post pictures when they arrive.

Great news!! D. and I found an officiant. We were worried that we wouldn’t be able to find a Rabbi to perform our Friday evening ceremony. I spoke with interfaith minsters, but they were too… touchy-feely, granola-y. I also spoke with professional officiants who will perform any ceremony you want, but I just didn’t feel a connection with them.

D. and I talked about it and thought, “Hey, what the heck, why don’t we ask Rob Tannenbaum from Good for the Jews? You never know, he just might do it.” (You remember Rob, he was the comedian who sang “I’m Better Looking Than The Guy You’re Going Out With” at the proposal.) It turns out that he’d love to do it.
In Santa Clara county, anyone can be a One-Time Deputy Marriage Commissioner and conduct a wedding if you fill out a form at the Clerk-Recorder’s office and pay 80 bucks.

D. and I need to sit down and figure out the basic structure for the ceremony. It shouldn’t be hard though. We have Make Your Own Jewish Wedding and I Do: A Guide to Creating Your Own Unique Wedding Ceremony to guide us.

I’m feeling pretty darn good about the wedding…

oh poop, I just realized something. Rob is the Music Editor at Blender Magazine. I’d better bring my A-game when creating the playlist for the reception. 😉

You know, Men’s Warehouse has some really decent suits. We ended up picking up a really nice black Calvin Klein suit for D. The European cut of the Calvin Klein suit was really flattering. We both didn’t want him in a tux for the wedding because the wedding is in the early afternoon, and we’re in a garden setting. Also, why rent a tux when you can buy a suit? We were looking for a warmer, possibly brown, toned suit, but everything looked too casual. Black is always formal and very versatile. So, with the help of a very nice old salesman, D. decided on an ecru dress shirt and matching classy tie. All he needs now are a pair of shoes, a belt, and some alterations. We’re holding off on altering the waist of his pants, just in case he loses weight before wedding.

I still need to get my dress altered and finish paying off the vendors, but for the most part, everything is taken care of.  It’s scary.