Yes, I now have two wedding dresses.

As I’ve already mentioned, I really dislike my wedding dress. I didn’t feel like it was “The” dress. Even after the alterations, I didn’t feel pretty.

Today, I was in the mall with D. looking for a reception dress. I wanted something that I could change into after the ceremony that was more “me”. Well, after trying on many unsuccessful dresses, on a whim, I walked in into Blossom’s Formal at the Valley Fair Mall. I spoke with a very understanding saleswoman, Melissa, and she pulled several evening gowns. Unfortunately, they really didn’t work. They were either too much like nightgowns or pageant dresses. I wandered into their bridal section, and I tried on a light gold, almost a light peach, wedding gown. IT WAS SO WONDERFUL. For some reason, the dress reminded me of Lorraine’s dress from the Enchantment Under the Sea Dance from Back to the Future. Don’t ask me why. It just does, and that makes me happy.

**EDIT: I found the website for the bridal designer of my dress, Raylia Designs, and here’s my dress! It looks much better in person, I swear.

What about my other dress you ask? It’s going up on Craigslist.

Since D. saw the new dress while I was trying it on in the store, I’ll post pictures as soon as I take them.


I got a call today from Trudy’s informing me that my dress arrived. What?!? I thought these stupid dresses were supposed to take 4 – 6 months to arrive, and I was given grief by the saleswomen because I hadn’t started looking yet. I went down to the store to make sure everything was okay. I checked the seams, the zipper, buttons, beads… everything. When I tried it on though, I was really disheartened. I really think they put me in the wrong size. I talked with the manager, and she assured me that it would be an easy alteration. I knew that the dress would be a little big and would require alterations, but I just felt so disappointed. I’m not sure why. (and no, Madam Saleslady, putting a veil on my head is not going to make me feel more like a bride.)

It’s a madhouse in there. Trudy’s is crammed with brides and their entourages. I felt out of place, and I started second guessing my selection. It’s not dripping with sequins or rhinestones; it’s not draped in lace. It looks beautiful and elegant, but a touch plain… yet it’s absolutely appropriate and I disliked all the princess-y dresses that I tried on. I came home all sad and close to tears because it wasn’t the experience I imagined it would be. (Lame.)

…at least I have the dress in my possession, and I’ll schedule my first alteration for the last week in April / first week in May.

Tomorrow is the Running of the Brides at Filene’s Basement in Towson, MD. A small part of me wanted to go, but the rest of me said, “Are you crazy?!?” I don’t feel like fighting with crazed Bridezillas over dresses. I want a nice, flattering dress, not a high fashion dress. I highly doubt I’m going to find a dress that suits me while other brides and their minions are ripping dresses off the racks. I haven’t even tried one dress on at a regular bridal salon yet.
I seriously need to start looking for someone to go with me to shop for dresses. Shopping is not one of my expertises. Maybe I’ll post an ad on Craigslist.

It’s that time again… time for CheapChicWeddings.com’s annual Toilet Paper Wedding Dress contest!

2006 winner
Winner from 2006

2005 winner
Winner from 2005

It’s amazing what these girls can do with toilet paper. If I had some free time, I’d enter. The contest rules are available here.

I’ve been reading a lot of wedding books and magazines lately, and they all describe shopping for wedding dresses the same way: looking for The One. I thought your fiance / husband-apparent is supposed to be the only thing described as The One at your wedding. Women describe being so moved at the sight of themselves in The One that they burst into tears. I guess they *know* they’ve found The One because birds start singing and sparkles rain down upon them.

When I shopped for my wedding dress for my first wedding, I never had an OMG! This is The One!!11!1! moment. I knew I wanted a dress that had a corset-style bodice, and that’s all I really cared about. I tried on dresses at Bridal Mart in Burlington, NC and at David’s Bridal. I eventually found my 100% polyester corset-style bodice tulle nightmare at David’s Bridal.
This time around, I’ve put some serious thought in to what I want to wear. I want something of much better quality that doesn’t make me look like a sausage trimmed with lace. I want something that looks classy, reflects my fun personality, and does not cost an arm and a leg.

As much as I like cake, I do not want my dress to look like it is made of frosting either.
I saw this dress in Modern Bride magazine and wondered whether it was strawberry or bubble gum flavored.
Frosting Dress
Maybe the designer was inspired this cake:

One of the dresses in the running for me is actually a bridesmaids dress by Watters and Watters.
I like the halter top bodice in black. Halter tops and A-line skirts are flattering on me. Also, I think the black will provide an elegant contrast to the white veil and white skirt. When I first showed D. this dress, he surprised me by saying that he’d rather see me in a more traditional (i.e. all white) dress. (He doesn’t think black is appropriate for a bride.) We’ve both been married before, and we’ve been living together for more than a year. There’s no virginal mystery to me anymore.
We will see what I’ll end up with. I have months to go before I start visiting bridal salons. I’ll let you know if and when I find The One.

I thought it was convenient when Disney started offering wedding services at the parks, but I think this is a bit much.

Brides can soon say ‘I do’ like a princess

(Walt Disney Co.) is using its stable of imaginary princesses as inspiration for a new line of wedding gowns. Disney and bridal designer Kirstie Kelly have developed a line of ethereal gowns that pay homage to Cinderella, Jasmine, Snow White, Ariel and Sleeping Beauty.